December 23, 2009
A second point in Menninger's "Criteria of Emotional Maturity" is "The capacity to adapt to change." And Change seems to be the name of the game these days. The Mayans said that the 2012 Shift of the Ages is about Transcending Time. I'm finding in my own life and that of family and friends, that Change is occuring more and more rapidly. It's not really that Time is speeding up, but rather that Creation is speeding up, and so we have to deal with events much more frequently than in the past. I've had days with as many as four or five phone calls, bills or notifications of address, phone number and e-mail changes, all requiring additional phone calls, letters or e-mails__ even Faxs__ to straighten things out. It seems we must attend to changes as soon as we can, for more are sure to quickly follow.
It seems imperative now to consider the way we interact with each other. I found that I could no longer abide to be around any "negative" TV programs, newspaper articles, websites or intense conversations. I had to leave the room when family members continued with an arguement or harsh criticism over a ballgame or political issue. For awhile, I was "leaving" quite often. Realizing that I could not force change in others (i.e., overide their free will)__ I could only change myself__ I had to Make My Thoughts and Feelings Serve Me. This I learned to do by taking a few slow, deep breaths, relaxing my body, and filling my heart with Unconditional/Divine Love. Within a few seconds, I could laugh at the negativity, and if I held this feeling within me for a few more minutes, the anger, loud voices and criticism disappeared. It was catching! I didn't have to say a word or take any physical actions; that loving energy moved out into the room and began to calm others.
In Chapter 17: Telepathy, we found that "If we deprive ourselves of love, we can’t stand stress and the etheric body shrivels. When we love ourselves and one another, we feed our energetic body. We must remain passive under the long-term, increasing stress that is being experienced world-wide since September 11, 2001. When we disempower the stress, (own it, accept it as part of ourselves, become as one with it and love it), the less it affects us. We feed beneficial energy to others and ourselves when we perceive the love that is present in every life moment."
The indigenous people suggest we make our decisions based on what will benefit our descendants seven generations from now. One of my "Indigo" grandsons__ now a college student__ has had some very difficult experiences with his step-father since age 10. The man would abuse him with shouting, cursing and name-calling that denigrated the boy's biological father__ for no basis in truth or reason we could fathom. My grandson is a kind and loving person, with the "Indigo Kids'" inherent relationship skills and does not "fight back". He instinctively knows that doing so only exacerbates the situation. So he just kept quiet and left the room. During one out-of-town visit to some of his mother's relatives, he spent the night sleeping in the car to evade this man's tirades. Grandson continued to just keep quiet, treat the man with politeness, respect and even kindness.
As Edgar Cayce often expressed, "He learned to turn his stumbling-blocks into stepping stones." Like most young people these days, Grandson is very knowledgable about computers. By his senior year in high school, he was helping his mom and step-dad in their international business, which required much online work. He earned his college funds by working for them weekends, holidays and summers. Now a junior in college after ten years of enduring this, Step-dad recently took him aside, told Grandson how much he appreciate the good work he was doing for them and apologized for his verbal abuse over the years. Step-dad has come to admire and trust him so much, that he now sends him__ alone__ to foreign countries to conduct their business. Yes.... miracles do happen!
Another inspiring relationship event recently occurred with this same grandson. Readers may recall Chapter 5: "Eyes of the Beholder" which was introduced with an episode when my own father was hospitalized, and I became aware that our family had not verbally expressed how much we loved each other. It led to my making a habit of doing so with my own husband and children. This, too, has "caught on".
When this Grandson, told his dad (one of our sons) that it was embarrassing when he, Dad, hugged and kissed him and said he loved him in front of his eenage friends. Dad said that was a shame, but he was going to keep on doing it, because we never know if today might be the very last time we see each other alive.
It was nearly five years later when the friends began to tell Grandson how great they thought it was that his Dad expressed his love to him so often and so openly, and they wished their parents would do the same. These are big, strong, strapping fellows; several were raised on ranches and still compete in rodeos. They are athletic, good students, and all have jobs outside of college to help with their financial expenses. Recently, Grandson related that he and friends now hug each other and express their love for each other. Yup....it's catching. Three generations so far.
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